I get it that you just want to get away from your mother.
Been there, done that.
At one point I’ve decided I won’t be speaking to my mother for six months. She:
- played favorites with my kids, just to provoke me.
- constantly guilt-tripped me, dropping hints at how neglected she felt.
- caused problems between me and my sister.
I felt I needed a break from her.
So, I took it.
A few years later, I moved 8000 miles away to a different continent and told myself: at last I’m free.
I don’t have to feel guilty anymore about not seeing her.
Did these no-contact periods make my life easier?
Yes, in a way.
I told myself: her upbringing is why I’m struggling so much.
I’m doing the right thing to protect myself from her.
But I just solved the problem on the surface.
I was just hiding from it.
In my heart and in my mind, where it really matters, the relationship was gnawing at my self-esteem and self-respect.
She was still in my head and in my heart, keeping me from having the life I really wanted.
You see, I kept telling this story, which always started like this:
It’s because of her that I …
For as long as I was telling that story, I couldn’t take control of my life. I gave her way too much power over me.
Do you want to live your life on your terms?
- Feeling free to express yourself
- Have the courage to truly be yourself with other people
- Be okay if they are themselves
- Stop the people-pleasing
- Stop worrying what other people think of you
If you want to:
- grow in confidence and composure …
- step out of the craziness
you have to try a new way.
What made the difference for me?
A single sentence.
Listen up, because it can change your life.
Whenever my mother does or says something that upsets me, I remind myself:
There are literally hundreds of ways I can think about this …
Don’t underestimate the power of that sentence.
Because if you think, then feel and eventually act differently, you change the relationship.
That’s the magic formula to help you step out of the craziness. Forever!
Learn about a simple process to do this
Learn how to keep your cool with your mother so that you can act with ease and grace around her without cutting her out of your life.
Let me introduce you to a step-by-step process to interact with your mother in this calm and peaceful way.
This 4-step-process is easy to use and combines your mind, emotions, body and memory. Once you’ve got it you will be unflappable even if she tries to provoke you.
And boy, is that a boost for your self-respect!
It’s called the S-O-F-T approach.
I made a video about it. It’s free.
If you want to learn more click on the link below.