“My mother doesn’t like me. And no matter what I do, I’m not good enough. She has a low opinion of me.
“It feels so hopeless, that no matter what I accomplish in my life, the bottom line is I’m not good enough in her opinion.”
Then, to make things worse, you realize:
“My unresolved issues with my mother are starting to impact my connection with my children.”
How will it be if you ...
How will it be if you:
- felt good enough, no matter what your mother does or says?
- experience a total sense of worthiness and lovability even if she isn’t in your life at all?
- could connect with your children in a way that’s 100% filled with unconditional love and is the direct opposite of what you have with her?
Something keeps you from believing that is possible for you, isn’t it?
Are you ready? Because here’s the BIG, FAT lie you’re telling yourself:
You loving you, you approving of you, you taking care of you is not enough
You’re convinced you loving you, you approving of you, you taking care of you is not enough
Basically, you’re not enough.
Here’s how you can change that. Starting today.
Answer this question and start acting on it.
Which habit can you start today that will give you joy?
I asked one of my clients that recently.
The reason I introduced this exercise is to teach her brain the same thing you have to teach your brain:
You’re 100% capable of caring for yourself without your mother’s help
You’re 100% capable of caring for yourself without your mother’s help.
My client came up with the idea of making a special breakfast for herself every morning to counter the bad thoughts she wakes up to every day.
We then brainstormed the details. It had to be a sandwich (made with artisan bread), a salad and a pink smoothie.
It was when I asked, “where would you want to eat it?” that she really lit up.
“Oh, it will be so much nicer if I can eat it outside.”
And so, she got started to take care of herself like a perfect mother figure would.
I was very glad to get some help from my client’s dog. The doggy was thrilled with the new arrangement and now insists the two of them eat outside every morning.
On Day 2 my client sent me a picture of her breakfast. It looked wonderful.
This simple new habit has her sleeping better, feeling more loved and enjoying her life more.
And now, it’s your turn.
Which tiny habit can you start today that’ll give you joy?
How can you:
- learn to mother yourself?
- show yourself as an adult you don’t need your mother?
- experience how it feels to be loved, precious and cared for?
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